Self-Esteem: Healthy Or Low?

Happy Sunday lovers! I hope you are still staying safe? As we go out to our various place of worship, don’t forget Covid’19 is still out there, use your mask and observe your social distance.. Our last discussion was on importance of Self-esteem. Today I want to talk some more about healthy Self-esteem. Don’t forget the best you can be is to be yourself😘

Factors Influencing Self-esteem

As you might imagine, many factors influence self-esteem more often than not our experiences usually form the basis for overall self-esteem. The following can also determine your Self-Esteem:

• Your inner thinking
• Disabilities or physical limitations,
• Those who consistently receive overly critical or negative assessments from family and friends, for example, will likely experience low self-esteem
• Genetic factors that help shape a person’s personality can play a role.
• Potential illnesses,
• Age
• Your job can affect your self-esteem.

Let’s say say you think very little of yourself and your capabilities, while everyone else in the world thinks very highly of you and your capabilities. In this case, you have very low self esteem, even though other people’s esteem of you is extremely high.

To consider the opposite example, let’s say you think very positively of yourself and your capabilities, while everyone else in the world thinks very negatively of you and your capabilities. In this case, you have very high self esteem, even though other people’s esteem of you is very low.

The best you can be is to be yourself and be proud of it.

Aderoju Abiola!

Signs of Healthy Self-Esteem

There are some simple ways to tell if you have healthy self-esteem. You probably have healthy self-esteem if you are more likely to:

• Feel confident
• You do not fear uncertainty
• You are resilient
• You can be yourself
• You accept new challenge
• Have a positive outlook on life
• Say “no” when you want to
• You accept disagreement
• You do not need approval
• You accept that you and others are fallible
• You articulate your view when challenged
• Avoid dwelling on past, negative experiences
• Express your needs
• Its okay to not know everything

Signs of Low Self-Esteem

You may need to work on how you perceive yourself if you tend to experience these common problems caused by low self-esteem:

• You have a negative outlook on life
• You believe that others are better than you
• You find it difficult expressing your needs
• You have an intense fear of failure
• You have trouble accepting positive feedback
• You frequently experience feelings such as shame, depression, or anxiety
• You focus on your weaknesses
• You have trouble saying “no”
• You put other people’s needs before your own
• You struggle with confidence

If you are still working on your low Self-Esteem, keep it up, things always get better and they will. Low self-esteem is very taxing and honestly its just one of those things that happens to some of us and honestly we can avoid it.