Welcome to November

Hi lovers!!!! It nice to pick up my pen from where I dropped it last month😌😌😌😌😌😌😌. Have been psychological down and emotionally drained. I have to see a psychologist but am healthy and mentally fit now.

Every month comes with it challanges, ups and downs but regardless we have to be positive and strive to achieve more goals than what we achieved last month.

October was a memorable month for any Nigerian whether at home or in diaspora, it’s a significant month in the year 2020. Where do we even start the narration from? Is it from the peaceful protest that lead to the lost of lifes of our young heros and heroes✊✊✊✊✊✊or the discoveries of Covid’19 palliative in different warehouse of different states or the drama from our governments. All in all I thank God.

October have been great with you, and it’s nice to venture into this month with you all again. In this new month, I have the urge to wish you a month filled with great wonders and miracles of the Lord. Everlasting joy and blessings are all I wish you because you mean a lot to me.

We pray that this month comes with peace ✌️ and comfort in our dear Country….

Peaceful Nigeria

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Welcome to November

Reality of Marriage as Oppose Fantasy!!!!!!

Its another episode of marriage talk on Female Guide and today I will be discussing Reality of Marriage as Oppose Fantasy!

Get your 📝 and chilled Juice….

A fantasy is an idea with no basis in reality and is basically your imagination unrestricted by reality. Reality is the state of things as they exist. It’s what you see, hear, and experience.

The media and even well-meaning loved ones can present us with a mix of the above myths. What it comes down to is our ability to stay true to ourselves and our relationships. What realities have you come to terms with? What myths have you heard? How are you making your relationships healthier?

We have numerous fantasies that has been killing our marriages and the earlier we stop same the better and healthier for us. Herein are some fantasies:


1. He/She doesn’t appreciate me. If you love me, you should know what I want; yes you are right we all have various love signs: some like attention while some likes gift etc if you notice your spouse is not doing what you like say it repeatedly and stop assuming he or she should know. Stop believing in those fake things you see on social media.. It may interest you to know that some couples organised birthday by themselves and tagged it “Surprised Birthday by my husband”.

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2. Never go to bed angry. The less arguments you have, the healthier the relationship: I love my husband and we argue, we quarrel, yes we do and it does not stop us from loving each other, rather we bond well each time we have argument cause it’s a means of knowing each other well. First up, anger isn’t a ‘ bad’ emotion. Some view anger as an emotion which triggers part of the fight or flight response.
It can actually help you to be honest or to stand up for something you believe in.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling angry. What matters is how you cope with and express your anger.
Some people find that they can resolve these issues without seeking professional assistance, If your anger is getting out of control, consider seeing a mental health professional.

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3. You can’t have it all.” One will be sacrificed — your family or your career.
For starters, I think it isn’t just about maintaining a “balance” between career and marriage, it’s about maintaining “a healthy balance” between the two. The reason for this is you might not be able to main a perfect balance no matter how hard you try. From what I’ve seen around, ladies especially tend to let go of one for the other. A lot of us tend to lose ourselves in marriage as if that’s our sole reason for existence in life and forget all the other things we desire to achieve in life, e.g career (either professional or entrepreneurial) once we get married. On the flip side too, a lot of us are also guilty of losing ourselves in our career world so much that we forget family, the importance of being there for our loved ones and our responsibilities to these people.

Notwithstanding the above, it is also a fact that at one point you might have to sacrifice one for the other. My opinion however is that you should not automatically make the sacrifice or choose one over the other until you have explored all available options and they seem not to be working.
Allow me to be direct and straight to the point, maintaining a healthy balance between career and marriage requires hard work and you must be willing to put in your all to achieve this balance.

First, let me address the ladies that are yet to make the marriage commitment, may God bless you with kind and loving spouses. You all should know that there are conversations you need to have with your intending spouse before you get married. You might need to have straight conversations around finance, sex & sexuality, values & ideals, career etc.

Please do not assume that your partner would readily support you in all your endeavours. While some will readily support you through everything and even celebrate your wins with you, the reality is (from what I’ve seen over the years with other people), marriage come with unpleasant surprises sometimes, so I would suggest you don’t just leave things to chance.

For the married women geng struggling to maintain a balance, don’t worry your head, that’s the reality for most of us😁. No one has the blueprint for these things, we are all just coping through and trying to figure out what works.

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4. He/She will change after we get married. He/She will change after we have the baby. True, meaningful change comes from the inside and is intrinsically motivate. Change is instantaneous. Personal change within yourself or within a relationship takes time and intentional, applied effort. It takes a large dose of self-awareness, acceptance, and then willingness to take steps towards change. If you desire change in another person for their personal growth and your relationship, it should be a conversation or a step far in advance of marriage or a child. A marriage or a child used as a catalyst for change will only complicate things.


5. True love is all about passion. Opposites attract. Sex/Attraction is everything.
A healthy relationship absolutely has a fire at the heart of it but it also requires practicality. There should be a degree of “this feels like home.” Two people may have great chemistry but, if there is a lack of substance or trust, opposing values, differing views on the future, or poor communication, love or sex won’t “fix it.” It will come down to the effort of both parties. It may be helpful to consider what the common connections are within the relationship — do they all rely on physical attraction or even everyday, fun activities? Are you able to have deep conversations? If there is little to no mental or emotional connection, then maybe that’s where the problems lies.

Marriage is funny, cause it’s a usually a man for himself. Take your struggle and fight the battle your own way. These are just common fantasy happening around me that I see that there is need to addresse them.

I’d love to hear your marriage fantasy, please share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section below.

Thanks for always reading 💞

New Week, New Grace!!!!!

If you are depressed you are living in the past if you are anxious you are living in the future, if you are at peace, you are living in the present.”

Lao Tz

May God bless this week for you, my good friend. – Cheers to a week full of laughter and prosperity.
I pray as we step into this new week, may God give you the strength, wisdom and knowledge to stay positive, committed to your goals and excel above your expectations. May God give you the ability to live in your present…

Happy New Week. I wish you a blessed week, full of favour, joy and success ahead!!!

DIY Banana Berry Smoothie Recipes And Benefits Of The Fruits Contain Therein.

DIY Banana Berry Smoothie Recipe

Preparation Time: 5minutes

1. 1 small banana
2. 6 oz. pineapple juice
3. 1/2 cube ice
4. 6 oz. blueberries
5. 6 oz. raspberries or blackberries
6. 2 tsp. honey
7. 1tsp grated peeled fresh ginger
PS: the quantity of ingredients to be used depends on number of people you are serving but this is for 2 people.

Rinse all the fruits with clean water and also make sure your blender is clean.
Pour all your ingredients in the blender and blend until smooth.

Served Chill!!!!
Enjoy with any meal of your choice but you won’t regret if you step it down with our Hot Special Amala.
Have a great day ahead!

Health Benefits of Banana

  • Banana gives your energy minus the cholesterol and fats
  • Bananas can aid digestion and help beat gastrointestinal issues
  • Banana are one of the best fruit sources of vitamin B6
  • Respectable sources of Vitamin C
  • Potassium in banana is good for blood pressure and heart health issues
  • Manganese in banana is good for your skin

Health Benefit of Blueberry

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All kinds of berries are bursting with nutritional benefits. Berries are edible fruits that grows on berries shrub

  • Boost brain healthRegulating blood sugar
  • Good source of Vitamins, fiber and minerals
  • Super source of antioxidant
  • Boost immunity
  • Reduce Risk of heart disease
  • Can Undo damage of high fat diet

Health Benefit of Blackberry

  • Good for the heartHigh in antioxidant
  • Blackberry have magnesium
  • Good for the bone
  • Blackberry have Potassium
  • It makes you meet your daily fiber intake goals
  • Good for immune system

Health Benefit of Raspberry

  • Healthy bonesMaintain healthy height
  • Help prevent cancer
  • Maintain healthy hair
  • Help skin looks younger

Health Benefits of Ginger

  • Ginger is among the healthiest (most delicious)spices on the planet
  • The active ingredient in ginger can helps fight injection
  • Ginger contains a substance that may prevent cancer
  • It may improve brain function and protect against Alcheimer’s disease
  • Ginger is a popular spice high in gingerol; a substance with powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties
  • Ginger may lower cholesterol levels
  • Ginger can help treat chronic indigestion
  • Ginger may reduce muscle pain and soreness
  • Ginger may drastically lower blood sugar improve heart diseases risk factor
  • Ginger powder may significantly reduce menstrual pain.
  • Ginger may treat may forms of nausea, e.g morning sickness, sea sickness, nausea after surgery and chemotherapy related nausea.

Health Benefits of Honey

  • It can help suppress cough in children
  • It helps improves cholesterol
  • It promote burns and wound healings
  • High quality honey is rich in antioxidant
  • The antioxidant in honey can help lower blood pressure
  • It can lower triglycerides
  • Honey is a less bad sweetner than sugar and high fructose corn syrup

Join us next week on another episode of DIY smoothies Recipes!!!!!!

Humility Is A Divine Virtue To Success

Hi lovers of Female Guide, humility is a virtue generally supported and encouraged by all religion we practiced all over the world. Humility is one very important virtue every human being must have, but you need to possess it in a way that glorifies God. It is of core importance to be modest so that you can be a better friend and life partner.


The thing is, no matter how smart, successful, good-looking or special you are, nobody likes a braggard. Nobody likes arrogance. Nobody likes cockiness.

It’s really important to practice humility, to develop into a better leader and a better person. Humility and vulnerability make us more likeable. I have a long way to go still, but each day I remind myself just how small I am in the amazing, wondrous world around me, and that helps me to stay humble.

Humility is when a person does not see himself as being better or above other people because of frivolous reasons like social standing, education, citizenship, or even color. You might want to be “perfect” in every way and even believe that you are so, but you need to be humble for respectable relationships in your life.

Being humble doesn’t mean to think less of yourself, it actually simply means to think of yourself less. You can have strong self-esteem but not brag or make a big deal of yourself to others. In fact, it’s most often people with low self-esteem that feel the need to do that in order to make themselves feel better. Here are ways you can train yourself to have more humility in your soul:

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  1. Practice Gentility: Gentleness of spirit is the sure path to humility. Practicing gentleness will help you rediscover your sense of wonder as you focus on the positive aspects of life.
  2. Admit your mistakes: Admitting your mistakes shows that you’re not stubborn, selfish, or unwilling to not look perfect. Although you may fear that people will be angry and frustrated with you, it is always better to admit than to cover it up. Whether you’ve made a mistake as a boss, parent, or friend, people will appreciate the fact that you’re willing to admit that you’re not perfect and that you’re working to improve yourself and the situation.
  3. Be sincere with your apology: Make eye contact when you apologize to show that you really care. Don’t be a repeat offender. Apologizing about something does not give you a license to do it again. Doing so will make people distrusting of you and what you say.
  4. Be grateful for what you have: Though you have undoubtedly worked hard for what you have, you could not have done it all without other people’s support. Everything we do is a result of what many other people have done to us. It is all because of the people around us that we get shaped and become better persons at some point so that we could achieve our goals.
  5. You are not the best in everything, Admit it: Even if you are ‘the best’ in the world at doing one thing, there are always other things that you cannot do, and may never be able to do. Recognizing your limitations does not mean abandoning your dreams, and it does not mean giving up on learning new things or improving your existing abilities. It simply means acknowledging that, as human beings, none of us are perfect and none of us can do everything by ourselves.
  6. Don’t take all the credit: Share the love. Recognize others who have helped you on your path to success.We are human beings and who we are now has a lot to do with other people’s influence and guidance. Countless people have given you support and helped you to become the person you are so that you can achieve your dreams. It’s totally fine to be proud about your achievements, but keep in mind that nobody ever does anything totally by themselves, and that as people, we are all helping each other to accomplish our goals.
  7. Stop comparing yourself with others: Every individual is unique. Appreciate people for who they are as human beings, not for their skills and appearance in relation to yours. While competition can be healthy and stimulating, it’s nearly impossible to be humble when we’re constantly striving to be the “best” or trying to be better than others. When you focus your energy on improving yourself instead of comparing you to everyone else, you’ll find that it is much easier to make yourself better since you don’t have to worry about whether or not you’re better or worse than anyone.
  8. Remain Teachable: You can be more humble by taking classes in something you know nothing about, such as digital marketing, or photography, and knowing that you will let others teach you and show you the way. This can help you realize that everyone is good at different things and we all need to help each other in order to become better people.
  9. Recognise your own fault: Work to address your flaws. Remember that growth and improvement is a lifelong process that never stops happening, even when you’re very skilled at something. We make judgments about others all the time, usually without even realizing it. Consider how you can improve yourself, instead of how you think others should act. After all, you cannot control other people’s decisions and behaviors – but you can control yours.
  10. Avoid bragging. It’s okay to have a healthy self-esteem and to feel proud of your accomplishments, but nobody likes it when someone constantly tries to bring attention to themselves and their own achievements. This doesn’t mean you should lie about achieving something; if someone asked if you about your grade, then it’s perfectly acceptable to say ‘First Class’ But don’t constantly talk about how absolutely amazing you were for being the best graduating student of your set, or achieving other goals.
  11. Appreciate the skills and talents of others: Being able to appreciate the talents and qualities of other people can also make you recognize qualities that you want to improve or attain within yourself. Understand that everybody is different and relish the chance you have to experience different people.
  12. Seek Guidance: If you’re not into spirituality, consider the scientific method. Science requires humility. It requires that you let go of your preconceived notions and judgments and understand that you don’t know as much as you think you do.
  13. Be a good listener: Ask questions to show that you understand what the person is talking about. Don’t just wait for the person to stop talking so that you can start talking. Remember, if you’re busy thinking about what you want to say, then you’ll have a harder time focusing on what they are saying. The next time you engage in a conversation, let the other person talk, don’t interrupt, and ask questions to keep the person talking and sharing.
  14. Spend more time in nature: Spending more time in nature will make you see how big and complicated the world is — and that you’re not at the center of it. Go take a walk in the park. Stand near the bottom of a waterfall. Look at the world from the top of a mountain. Go for a long hike. Swim in an ocean. Find your own way of being in nature and take the time to truly appreciate all that it entails. Close your eyes and feel the breeze on your face. You should feel completely humbled by nature – a force that is so immense in its depth and power.

Honestly, it can be pretty hard to be humble, especially if you live in a society that encourages competition and individuality. Yet even in such society, humility remains an important virtue. Learning to be humble is of paramount importance and humility can help you develop more fully and enjoy richer relationships with others, as well as create opportunities and earn you respect. Sadly, your family won’t stay with you longer if you are an arrogant and snobbish person.

Celebrating some Wacky Facts About Twins

“Twin is God way of saying buy one get one free”


What is it about twins that’s so darn fascinating? We idolize them when they’re famous (Mary and Joseph Lazarus, Taiwo and Kehinde Bankole, Mary Kate and Ashley), we envy them when we’re young (I know I’m not the only one who dreamed of having an identical partner-in-success as a kid!) — some women even stick to conception-friendly diets said to increase their chances of having adorable little duos.
With so many twins among us these days, it’s high time we celebrate some of the most wacky facts about them. 😉🙂. Keep on reading for 18 mirrored facts all about twins.

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Twins are common in the Yoruba ethnic group that dominates this part of Nigeria. A 1970s study by a British gynaecologist found that around 50 sets of twins were born out of every 1,000 births in the southwest – one of the highest rates of twin births in the world.

  • Twins Are so Common In Yoruba Culture: Twins are so common that they are traditionally given specific names. They are called either Taiwo or Kehinde depending on whether they were born first or second. But even for Yoruba people, Igbo Ora is considered to be exceptional.
  • Massachusetts Has The Most Twin Births of Any State in America: At nearly 4.5 for every 100 live births, Massachusetts has the highest rate of twin births. Connecticut and New Jersey follow with 4.2 twins per every 100 births.
  • Dog Always Know: In addition to being great pets, dogs come in really handy when it comes to telling twins apart. Dogs have such a heightened sense of smell that they can tell the twins apart by their own unique smells. This also means that if either of the twins get a dog of their own when they’re older, there won’t be any confusion on the part of the dog as to which one is their owner.
  • Quaternary Marriage:When identical twins marry identical twins, it’s called a quaternary marriage. If both sets of twins have children of their own, thanks to biology, while legally being considered cousins, genetically, since they come from the same pool of chromosomes, they are technically siblings. If that doesn’t seem crazy enough, based on DNA alone, figuring out who the biological parents are of the two couples would be virtually impossible.
  • They Read Each Other Mind: A popular myth surrounding twins is that they have some kind of ESP or special telepathic ability that allows them to read each other’s minds. While no genuine scientific evidence exists to prove the claim, numerous personal accounts by twins describe a unique mental connection.
  • Mirror Twins Have Reverse Asymmetric Features: Mirror image twins account for about one-fourth of all identical twins. In these rare cases, identical twins develop directly facing each other, meaning they become exact reflections of one another. If one twin is right handed the other twin is left handed, they may have birthmarks on opposite sides of their body and can even have hair that whorls in reverse directions. Mirror image twins are thought to occur when the twins split from one fertilised egg later than usual.
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  • Twins Could Have Different Dads:Voila! Two babies, two dads. This is due to a medical phenomenon known as superfoetation. It occurs when a pregnant woman continues to ovulate and releases an egg a few weeks into her pregnancy. The second egg is fertilised, and the woman is then pregnant with two babies. Because sperm can remain alive in the reproductive tract for that long, each man’s sperm fertilized one of eggs. Usually, when a woman becomes pregnant, several biological processes happen to prevent her from getting pregnant a second time. Hormones are released that halt ovulation, a ‘mucus plug’ develops in the cervix to prevent sperm from traveling to the uterus, and the lining of the uterus changes, making it hard for another embryo to implant.
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  • The First Successful Separated Conjoined Twins in Nigeria: Nigerian conjoined twins(Mercy and Goodness Ede) was successfully separated by 78-member team in Abuja in November, 2019. According to the hospital, It took around 13 hours for the team working from two operating theaters at the hospital to separate the twins. Although the surgery took 13 hours, wasn’t without its complications, but miraculously, the twins survived, and were able to go home save and sound.. The girls are the first to be successfully separated at the government-run specialist center, National Hospital spokesman Dr. Tayo Haastrup told CNN.
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  • Identical Freckles: In the same way, identical twins also don’t have identical freckles. The pattern of freckles and moles on the skin is caused by random mutations and will vary between identical twins.
  • Unique Individual: People often forget that despite sharing common DNA, twins, even identical ones, are still individuals. Just like any set of siblings, it’s natural that they have similar tastes and interests, but that doesn’t mean that they act alike or even look exactly alike. In fact, as the twins get older, they might go out of their way to be different than their sibling. Dressing alike must get old really fast!
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  • Twins Have a Secret Language: Phenomenon known as cryptophasia (from the Greek for ‘secret’ and ‘speech’) describes a language developed by twins in early childhood which only they understand. Cryptophasia is thought to occur in up to 50% of identical or non-identical twins. The secret language is formed when two very close babies are learning how to speak a real language alongside one another and naturally often play and communicate with each other. As such, it is more common among twins because they are more likely to be around each other and developing at the same rate; although the phenomenon can also sporadically occur between two babies who are not twins. This language consists of inverted words and onomatopoeic expressions, and often disappears soon after childhood once the children have learned a real language.
  • Passing the Genes: One common myth about twins is that they skip a generation, but this isn’t entirely true. If a woman gives birth to twins of either sex, the twin gene will be passed along to her children. Since boys don’t release eggs, they aren’t affected, but should they have daughters, the gene would be passed on again, and she would be more likely have twins. If the twins are girls however, the likelihood of the daughter giving birth to twins is pretty high.
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  • One For The South Paw: Although left-handedness only occurs in about 10% of the population, about 17% of twins are born left-handed. Exactly why this happens is not really known, but researchers speculate that it’s related to environmental factors, hormonal levels during pregnancy, or the position of each baby in the womb.
  • Twins Interact With Each Other In The Womb: No wonder twins share such an unbreakable bond — they get a head start on the rest of us. Moms who are expecting two tend to have higher levels of morning sickness, likely because of increased levels of the hormone human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG).
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  • Dairy Product: If for some reason you are anxious to have twins, according to a study in Journal of Reproductive Medicine, certain foods can improve the chances of having twins. The study compared the diets of women who ate lots of dairy products with women who followed a vegan diet, and found that the dairy eaters were five times as likely to have twins.
  • Using an Ultrasound Isn’t The Only Way Doctors Can Detect a Twin Pregnancy: some figure it out when they hear two tiny heartbeats through their stethoscope. At 14 weeks of gestation, twins were seen reaching for each other. By 18 weeks, they touched each other more often than they touched their own bodies. The researchers said that kinematic analyses of the recordings revealed that the twins made distinct gestures toward each other and were as gentle to the other twin’s delicate eye area as they were when they touched their own.
  • It Runs in the Family: If you’ve ever heard stories about families with multiple sets of twins there’s a scientific reason for that; the twin gene causes women to release multiple eggs during ovulation, which increases the chances of her having fraternal twins. Since genes are passed on to family members, it’s both possible and even likely that a twin will give birth to twins.
  • Sleep Number Mother: We already knew that mothers have super powers, but one of their particularly awesome powers is the ability of her body to automatically adjust to the temperature needs of each twin when she’s breastfeeding and carrying them. It’s like having your own private thermostat!

This article is dedicated to my favourite Kenbrolee and Cruzlee as they celebrate there birthday today. They remain my favourite Twin until I have my own set of twin.

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2 heart melting smiles

2 heart melting kisses

2 best friends to share their lifes together


Lovely 🌹 Peace ✌️Quotes ❣️ To Put You On Track 😉

Monday is the perfect day to correct last week mistake! Be selective with your battles. Sometimes peace is better than being right. Have a productive week ahead 🙂

Achieving peace is a continuous journey many of us are on, we should not allow the behavior of others to destroy our inner peace. Though it might seem out of reach, putting our problems and struggles into perspective helps us get closer to reaching tranquility.

Perhaps, that why each year there is a day slated for International day of Peace which is 21st of September. This is a day solely devoted as a peace day to strengthening the ideal of peace, through observing 24-hours of non – violence and cease fire.


Peace on earth is important to humanity but peace of mind is divine. inner peace refers to a delibrate state of psychological or spiritual calm despite the potential presence of stressors.

Whether it’s peace of mind or peace on earth you’re after, it all begins with making an effort to be more calm and present. That’s why I rounded up some quotes from Stacy London, Mother Teresa, Albert Einstein, Louise L. Hay, Aderoju Abiola, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Hafsat Abiola and some other people who know a thing or two on the word ☮️. So if you’re in need of inspiration, these quotes will put you on the right track.

“Peace begin with a smile”- Mother Teresa

“Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.” —Albert Einstein

“Imagine all the people living life in peace. You may say that I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us and the world will be as one.” —John Lennon

“Peace comes from being able to contribute the best that we have, and all that we are, toward creating a world that supports everyone. But it is also securing the space for others to contribute the best that they have and all that they are.” —Hafsat Abiola

“If you are depressed you are living in the past if you are anxious you are living in the future, if you are at peace, you are living in the present.” —Lao Tz

“Let go of the thoughts that don’t make you strong.” —Karen Salmansohn

“I have no desire to argue with anyone, I choose to walk away because I just want peace”- Aderoju Abiola

“No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for ‘we’ are the only thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.” —Louise L. Hay

“Every breath we take, every step we make, can be filled with peace, joy and serenity.” —Thich Nhat Hanh

“Peace is its own reward”_ Mahatma Gandhi

“Peace is liberty in tranquility.” —Marcus Tullius Cicero

“The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence.” —Norman Vincent Peale

“You should feel beautiful and you should feel safe. What you surround yourself with should bring you peace of mind and peace of spirit.” —Stacy London

“Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” —Ronald Reagan

“You will never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart”- George Micheal

“Peace brings with it so many positive emotions that it is worth aiming for in all circumstances.” —Estella Eliot

“You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems, but by confronting them courageously. You will find peace not in denial, but in victory.” —J. Donald Walters

“Peace can become a lens through which you see the world. Be it. Live it. Radiate it out. Peace is an inside job”. —Wayne Dyer

“Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset.” —Saint Francis de Sales

“It isn’t enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn’t enough to believe in it. One must work at it.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

“When I say it’s you I like, I’m talking about that part of you that knows that life is far more than anything you can ever see or hear or touch. That deep part of you that allows you to stand for those things without which humankind cannot survive. Love that conquers hate, peace that rises triumphant over war, and justice that proves more powerful than greed.” ―Fred Rogers

“If you don’t know the guy on the other side of the world, love him anyway because he’s just like you. He has the same dreams, the same hopes and fears. It’s one world, pal. We’re all neighbors.” —Frank Sinatra

“Being relaxed, at peace with yourself, confident, emotionally neutral loose, and free-floating — these are the keys to successful performance in almost everything.” —Wayne W. Dyer

“The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence.” —Norman Vincent Peale

“To find peace, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your connection with the people, places and things that create all the noise in your life – Aderoju Abiola

In the end, you can’t give what you don’t have, be at peace with yourself, let go of your past mistakes, so you can give the world peace that it deserve.




Salam means Peace

Self-Esteem: Healthy Or Low?

Happy Sunday lovers! I hope you are still staying safe? As we go out to our various place of worship, don’t forget Covid’19 is still out there, use your mask and observe your social distance.. Our last discussion was on importance of Self-esteem. Today I want to talk some more about healthy Self-esteem. Don’t forget the best you can be is to be yourself😘

Factors Influencing Self-esteem

As you might imagine, many factors influence self-esteem more often than not our experiences usually form the basis for overall self-esteem. The following can also determine your Self-Esteem:

  • Your inner thinking
  • Disabilities or physical limitations,
  • Those who consistently receive overly critical or negative assessments from family and friends, for example, will likely experience low self-esteem
  • Genetic factors that help shape a person’s personality can play a role.
  • Potential illnesses,
  • Age
  • Your job can affect your self-esteem.

Let’s say say you think very little of yourself and your capabilities, while everyone else in the world thinks very highly of you and your capabilities. In this case, you have very low self esteem, even though other people’s esteem of you is extremely high.

To consider the opposite example, let’s say you think very positively of yourself and your capabilities, while everyone else in the world thinks very negatively of you and your capabilities. In this case, you have very high self esteem, even though other people’s esteem of you is very low.

The best you can be is to be yourself and be proud of it.

Aderoju Abiola!
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Why is Self Esteem Important?

Hey Cute WSW lovers! I almost forgot today was Friday and I owe you guys a blog post. Am extremely tired but because I want to be consistent with my blogging and I also want to keep up with my blogging schedule here I am. Today I want to talk about Self Esteem.

We all know that self-esteem (sometimes referred to as self-worth or self-respect in it’s simplest definition can be how much you appreciate and like yourself. Psychologically, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value. It involves a variety of beliefs about yourself, such as the appraisal of your behaviors, appearance,emotions and beliefs.

The Goal Getter

Your self-esteem must be moderate to balance your life equation and most importantly, it comes from Within. Too high self-esteem can make people feel too pompous and always see themselves as know it all while too little self-esteem can leave people feeling defeated or depressed. It can also lead people to make bad choices, fall into destructive relationships, or fail to live up to their full potential.

Importance Of Self- Esteem

Self-esteem is important because it heavily influences people’s choices and decisions. Other importance of self-esteem are:

  • You’re open to learning and feedback, which can help you acquire and master new skills.
  • Can be an important part of success.
  • You have generally positive relationships with others and feel confident about your abilities.
  • Self-esteem serves a motivational function by making it more or less likely that people will take care of themselves and explore their full potential
  • When you value yourself and have good self-esteem, you feel secure and worthwhile.

To appreciate this article, I will conclude it with this illustrations. Let’s say you’ve achieved amazing things in life, like creating a wonderful family, founding a successful business, working in a well paying organisation as a top employer and so on. You could still have very low self esteem by thinking very little of those achievements, even though everyone else finds them amazing, because it is your thoughts about your capabilities and the achievements that matter, not the achievements themselves. Similarly, let’s say that you have extremely supportive friends and family, and every day they tell you that you’re the greatest person in the world. You can still have extremely low self esteem, by still thinking of yourself as a loser, because your self esteem comes from your thoughts about yourself, and not the thoughts or actions of your friends and family.

The above Illustrations shows clearly if you fall under the too high self-esteem category or Low self-esteem. We will discussing factors influencing Self-esteem and signs of healthy self esteem in our next article…

Nobody knows judgment day all we can guarantee ourselves is that today is Friday. Have fun and party wisely……

Self Love: Live In The Moment 😍😍😍😍😍

Is it hard to put yourself first? Do you neglect your self-care? Do you say yes when you really mean no? Do you break promises to yourself or ?

You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens

Louise L. Hay

Self-love is the starting point for being able to truly and selflessly love and show love to others. Without loving yourself, it is hard to be completely selfless in a relationship with anyone. It’s important because it is the foundation to have good relationships with others.

Benefit of self love you need to know to change your mentality about how important loving your self are:

  • Self love cultivates a mindset of gratitude
  • Self love allows you to fill in the gaps external sources of love may leave
  • When you love yourself you are always present and aware of your surroundings

My life changed for better when I realised self-love is my secret weapon to living a fulfilling life. That’s because my inner world creates my outer world.

  • Self love is important in setting boundaries in our relationships
  • Lack of self love makes you a failure in all your endeavors
  • Self love provides space for self -reflection and introspection
  • Its eliminate toxic relationship
  • Its teaches acceptance: when you love yourself you accept everything about yourself
  • Self love motivates you to make healthy choice in life.
  • Self love get rid of sticking thinking
  • Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.

When you have a high regard for your own well-being and happiness it shows you love yourself. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

  • The only way to treat yourself well is when you love yourself
  • It is a powerful component to healthy living
  • With self love you move forward with authenticity
  • The only way to genuinely love others is by genuinely loving yourself
  • Self love prevent burnout

It feels natural to take good care of your body, mind, and spirit, and you can’t do that if you don’t love yourself. The good news is when you love yourself fully you feed your soul and become the highest version of yourself and by feeding your soul, you are feeding the society with cute smile, compassion, kindness, all this is not only healthy for you but also for humanity ☺️

How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.

Rupi Kaur

Do you still say yes when you really mean no? Do you still find it hard to love yourself due to your past mistakes or experience, Is it still hard to put yourself first? Do you neglect your self-care? If you answer any of this in a negative tone, please it’s time to move on and let go of your past, create a new belief that echoes in your ear: “It’s okay to put my needs first.” Repeat often.

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