Marriage becomes a joyous and worthwhile journey as you walk on the path to allow the Good of God to orient your life. Good of God is Reality.
There are many reasons which results in separations of loved ones which changes life of both the person involved. Some of prominent reasons of problems are jealousy, pride and EGO.
Ego can single handedly murder your relationships. Ego usually comes out of fear of losing control or proving yourself right or when someone is feeling insecure. People don’t even realize that they have ego problem and it eventually results in breaking up relations with their loved ones.
It is helpful to observe how hard you must work to maintain your ego orientation. If you can, remember a time you were upset with your partner for days and then made the choice to let go of the upset. It may be hard to recall what was upsetting you. The moment you are willing to let go, the upset vanishes into nothing. Your ego’s good must be maintained, moment by moment, in a fantasy world in opposition to Reality. The good of God is Reality.
Steps to Shift Your Orientation Away From Your Ego’s Good Toward a Higher Power?
Enjoy Silent Moment With Yourself
Create an every day routine to remind yourself why it’s beautiful to be you. To know that you are enough. Everyday perform a selfless act of love, and enjoy giving a selfless act of love to your spouse without the expectation to receive.
It is in our most silent moments that our thoughts speak the loudest
Just- Twon
Acknowledge Where you are and Practice Forgiveness
Acknowledge where you are. Everyone’s ego is selfish, so you are in good company. Don’t be weak, you know the weak can never forgive. The most powerful tool to learn to let go of our egos is to make life easier and to practice forgiveness. You have to learn to forgive your spouse whenever they hurt you and most importantly you have to learn to forgive yourself.
The practice of forgiveness creates new space for positive energy to return to you, and opens more space in your heart for you to love yourself.
Dr. Debra Reble
Don’t Deny your Ego Patterns
Sometimes they are just angry. Don’t deny your ego patterns; simply observe them. The first thing you need to do is get less personal about things. Some spouse take it too literally. Avoid doing something like that. You should learn to be at peace with yourself. Also, know that people don’t always mean what they say.
We get attached to temporary things, then wonder why our happiness never lasts.
Unanimous
Take Responsibility
Take 100 percent responsibility for your thinking; yet do not justify your thoughts. When I think about times that I’ve been frustrated I always recognize a single thought that resonates in my head, “Drop your ego! You have nothing to lose here, but a whole life to win.” are you confused as to the part of winning a whole life, don’t be, the way you respond to the way your spouse treat you give them a better insight of who you are.
It only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truely are
Allanah Hunt
Compliment Others
It is a great thing to compliment others. Plus it is an easy way to pretend that your ego problems don’t exist for just a bit. Let your partner know how beautiful they look today and how great that dress looks on them. It’s also not out of place to offer to take a shot of there shinning shoes, remembering those cute words will definitely brightens their day. Compliments make people have a great day whenever they remember.
If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.
Ruthie Lindsey
Surrender your Need for Control.
We are not our egos, we are not our jobs, we are not our material possessions, and we are not our achievements. Once you let your ego control your life, you will never be happy or relaxed because as soon as you lose one of the things that you identify with, the rest will fall like dominos and you will lose your happiness. Not just you loosing your happiness but also your spouse loosing their happiness as well, am sure you don’t want that to happen.
Surrender your expectations, surrender your doubts, surrender your fears, surrender your strength, surrender your anger, surrender your control.
Yasmine Galenorn
Love
Love is a powerful tool to conquer ego. Love has the power to dissolve ego. Show lots of love to your spouse wherein she/he leaves the ego. Love is not just a beautiful thing, love is life, when you nourish it, it grows more and get more nourished, when you kill it with ego it dies.
Absence of consciousness is ego! Whenever the ego is absent, love is represent.
Aderoju Abiola
Be Willing to Feel your Antic
As you look at yourself, be willing to feel embarrassed by your antics.
Always remember in every ship you are in, the only benefit ego does is to drown the ship. One of the biggest mistakes egoistic people make is living in fear of looking silly. It is often associated with pride since proud people are always so worried about making a fool out of themselves. And if you have been feeling like this for a while, then stop right away.
What some people would call antics, I would just call a good show because at the end it all depends on you.
Aderoju Abiola
Practice Gratitude.
Finally, I remember the popular saying that it’s not happy people who are thankful; it’s thankful people who are happy.” To reduce the fights between you and your partner, you need to avoid your ego. Ego should never come in between loved ones, it ruin your marriage. You need to be mentally prepared in dealing with your ego problems between you and your partner and most importantly follow the steps above to deal with your ego problems. I can assure you that you will surely get close to your partner and your fights will get reduced.
Practice gratitude, change attitude.
Prly Anka
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading and found my steps helpful, if so please share it with your spouse, family and friends, it may be exactly what they need to hear.
I’d love to hear what actions you take, Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section below.
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